We own a hair salon and she has always done my hair. I need a hair cut and she said last week that she would do it. She said that she just needs to feel we are compromising. I think that is in regard to her legal process. Should I ask her to do my hair, or should I find a stylist and just get it done. I can see both sides of both decisions. On one hand, she has always enjoyed making me look good and it is a time we laugh and talk, even 4 weeks ago after her announcement. On the other hand, if I go somewhere else, it will look like I am moving on, but she will be critical of another person's work and find reasons to think I don't look as good. Sounds petty, but it is an issue I need to face this week.
Petty or not, it is these types of situations that you find yourself in all the time. Let's look at it two ways, okay? One way is that you can have her cut your hair (since she said she would) and it can be another opportunity to outshine the OM and show off your charm and personality. You can be care-free and just act relaxed and talk about something interesting (plan ahead on what you can talk about) or something funny. The other option is not to have her cut your hair b/c you are trying to stay away and be unavailable to her. So, you need to decide which way you want to go. How do you want to handle it and which way would you feel more comfortable doing? If she cannot see OM any more than that, it gives you more opportunity to outshine him. But, if you are trying to pull back and be less available to her, then you need to try to do that. It is a hard decision for some, but you have to make it. Let us know what you do and how it goes.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
