K It is so very hard,this situation I dont know what your H will do if he has to choose between ow and M for the most part , they choose ow the attraction/pull is very strong in my case the DB, also built hope in me b/c H and I got along well while I db...now I am dim and will be changing that very soon dimness creates huge walls between us I see the purpose in it and it has worked for some, I wish the map were clearer peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow