Just missing you guys a little!

[Amy M]

Well, I guess it went better than I expected. I picked S7 up from school, and just out the blue he asks me if he plays football will I still come to his games. I said, "Of course, why do you ask?" He said cause his dad will be at all the games.

So, I said, "S7, I'll always be your mom and he'll always be your dad, and we both will watch your plays and your games and support you in all you do. I do know that your dad has a girlfriend and I don't want you to worry about that."

He says, "Dad doesn't have a GF." I said, "I think he does, and I just want you to know that while it's wrong to have a GF while you are married, I still love your dad, and I still want good things for him. I will be fine and you and S3 will be fine. And, you will get to see Dad just as much as you have been."

So, he says, "Who is Dad's GF? Is it OW?" I said, "Yes." Then he said, "Was she Dad's GF when he lived at our house?" I said, "Yes. I think she was."

He was quiet for a minute. I said, "Are you okay?" He said, "Yeah. I'm okay. It's just weird." I said, "Yes. It is. If you want to talk about it, we can."

So, we get S3 and stop at McDonalds and come home to eat. While we eat, they talk about their weekend. Apparently, they were at OW's house on Saturday and Sunday both. So, H is stilllllll lying!!! What's the point of that now??? I was so irritated that I sent a TM that said..."U r amazing. Why do you still feel the need to lie? Or did you actually have to pick up the hoses from her house on Saturday and Sunday? STOP IT. I don't deserve the lies."

S7 worked on his homework, and got frustrated so he stomped off outside. I let him pout for a few minutes, and then I walked out there. He was mad about his homework. I told him not to get upset that we would work a little more tonight and then finish tomorrow. He teared up. I hugged him and said, "What's up, buddy? Let's talk. We are friends, you know?" He said, "You already have 10 hundred friends." I just laughed and said, "Yes. I have a lot of friends, but you are the most important one. I'm sorry I told you about your dad. I thought you already knew." He said, "If dad marries OW, is she gonna live with him." I said, "Well, he will likely live with her at her house where you visited this weekend." He said, "Where will I stay when I go see him?" I said, "You'll stay at her house too."

He said, "Okay." So, I just reminded him that his dad and I both love him very much and that we'll all be okay. I did tell him that having a GF while you are married is not the right thing and that I certainly hoped he understood that. He said he did.

That was that...hopefully, I've opened the door for him to talk about it more should he feel the need.

It was quite hurtful to hear them talk about being at her place. They had fun. She fixed them lunch. They like her and her dogs. Ouch! But, I guess that's better than her being an evil stepmom, right?

So, secret's out! I'm not fighting it. I'm going to turn in the settlement papers with his change requests tomorrow. And, I'm going to ask her to get the packet ready to file as quickly as possible. And, I'm going to keep praying that H will start to think about his boys more than himself someday very, very soon!

I'm exhausted! I'll actually be glad when it's all over!!!

Love you!
Amy