Yes, definitely don't make much of that. But it's funny... my H didn't do that. He was so full of venom towards me. (That's what he did to avert his guilt about the situation and to push me away).
Thinking about this, it was probably easier for me to detach because of this. If he had been nice (and there were moments when he was nice), it might have made it much more difficult for me. I have to give you guys credit for doing your best to detach under these circumstances. In some ways it's much more difficult when they are nice.
It's sort of reminds me of someone who has caught a fish on a hook, and they are pulling it along, then letting go, and then pulling along... trying not to lose it.
Just in case they get hungry at a later time.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
