FIB, really, just five minutes, your wife and I, woman to woman.
Let me tell you, she is a disgrace of a mother. I am doing everything I can to make this as easy as possible on my son- never saying a bad word about my h, encouraging their relationship, maintaining a friendly rapport with h and he is 18! And she is doing this to little children. I am telling you, she is pis*ing me the heck off!
FIB, Im here bro..I lurk on a few people and post when I think I should. Everyone gives great advice and they beat me to the punch. Your leader should understand. We were kinda trained for it.
I had a "2 parent" child in my den once.(no offense meant by that term) The boy lived with his dad and he only saw his mom at the meetings. I cant get into much more on their story but both parents did the best they could with the meetings. A few months later they didn't return. No matter what if you can help it, and if your boys want to, stay in scouts. Its some of the best times Ive ever had the honor of having with not only my boys, (and my daughter who came along willingly to the meetings when W had to work) but with 8 other bright eyed wonderful mischievous kids. I do miss it sometimes but all of my boys "crossed over" Some became Boy Scouts, some like mine chose to do church activities. What a great time!!!
Kerry, Thanks for the Tiger link..I didn't realize that they weren't included. :P Beginners is right there is sooooo much stuff online. Stuff that isn't even in the books. She can keep the book...just make sure the leader knows that you helped do the requirements so the W don't take the cred.
Gman Me 40 W 30 kids B 11 B 10 D 8 Been here off and on since 06. PA Confirmed Dec 08.. With God, anything is possible. Do or do not there is no try. Sometimes you have to roll the hard six...
So how much longer for the forensic analysis to be completed in its' entirety and the decisions by the LG and court? There are 3 more steps in this? I don't think I've ever wanted someone else's sitch to resolve as much and as fast as I want yours to. Good GOD speed this thing up. In all the other situations on this site we want things to SLOW down....but not this one.
Well, I'm preaching to the choir so on that note, hugs your way and hang in there. It really is the last lap and you know,
You've been such a leader on this site for the graciousness and dignity and love you've shown throughout terrible adversity...I'm sure I speak for many here who'll say to you,
Hold your head high. And for women who thank you for reminding us all in our darkest hours with the men in our lives, that there are men like you. Makes us all hopeful for our men and grateful to you.
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
This facsimile communication is intended to inform you that a heated dispute arose last night initiated by the father of S8 informing me of his opinion that there was a need to address some seeming problems with which S8 was suffering as judged by his father.
Due the father's absence from Court yesterday at the time of the Court meeting March 12, 2009 and thus having no direct first hand access to advice of both sources of Counsel, which my L and LG proferred there and then, advising a meeting be arranged with both parents and LG. At the earliest possible convenience, it is my intention to alert you to this situation at once, to protect the welfare and best interests of both children.
FIB, S8's father had judged that S8 needs counseling, an opinion with which I agree, but to have excluded me from from his definitive opinion which he asserts resulted from his discussion with his Counsel, is unsatisfactory for me as S8's mother.
I feel that we can all agree it does no one involved in a marital dispute to have one parent cast derision and blame on the shoulders of the other and for our family at this jointure and as a result of this unbalanced blame game, it is becoming increasingly clear that both parents should meet with Ms.LG, Legal Guardian, at which time firm guidelines be established with the welfare of both children in mind.
I, as their mother, ask that I be included in all discussions regarding these children.
More to the point, any diagnosis about S8 and any counseling needs, must come from a professional trained in child psychology, his father's medical opinion being secondary to that of one trained in this field.
Thank you for your kind attention to this matter.
Very truly yours,
It is after this letter that the LG wrote a letter asking her to stop writing letters.
This morning, I asked her to stop wearing VS short shorts in front of the kids. She wasn't happy about this:
W: Now you are stooping low.
Me: I am not writing any letters...this is between you and me...they are too provocative and I am asking you to stop wearing them in front of the kids.
Now, I am waiting to see what she does to punish me for THIS.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Ok FIB, I really believe that she is - how do I put his nicely- freakin' nuts! Really though, you have to do something to protect your children. I think you should speak with your lawyer about the fact that she is not behaving in a normal way and that you are afraid of the psychological damage that is being done to them by her.
She should be ashamed of herself.
She is saying she agrees that your s needs to see a therapist. As a mother, if that is how she feels, she should put aside all animosity with you and worry about how to get him help.
If anyone needs to see a professional trained in child psychology, it is S8's mother.
good one. But FIB, no matter. The LG already told her to knock it off, (and by the way, what's "jointure"? Oh, I guess she combines words...interesting...)
Yeah, I'm sure the Court will be very impressed by her astute observations and keen insight. The part where you suggested he gets counselling and dared to make your observation without the benefit of her expertise.... and which must evidently also mean you are disparaging her...yeah, that's legal acumen sure to impress...
((oh the whining the LG must be doing in her office!!)
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Everyone gives great advice and they beat me to the punch.