Thanks. I probably am overthinking things a bit. She does a great job with my hair, so all things being equal I would like her to do it, but not if it costs me points. I think what I will do is see if she offers, if not I will just get it done. No discussion, no reaction.
Because our kids are small we are at home with them all day. So if I am out, she has to be there, ie the work day...and if she is at work 3 nights a week, I am with the kids. On Sat, I overheard her say that she was going to go out with a girl she works with. I had already planned to do something that night. She is assuming I will be home to watch the kids. So I am going to wait to see if she asks, in which case I will tell her I have plans. If she doesn't ask, I will simply go about my plans and let her figure out if she can get a sitter. No conflict, no anger...just do what we do.
