What is best for my son?

[BobbiJo]

The book that Kalni had mentioned ordering, that I bought and am reading, is "How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking About It". It is by Stosny/Stozny? and Love.

I am glad Dan has been calling, it seems whenever there is a crisis at work, or with the cows (like when a calf died last month), or family, etc etc, he calls ME to talk about it.

And he admitted in his text to me last month, "I don't know how to do this without you", meaning life.

So I am being the best friend I know how to be and letting it go for now. I sent him a text on Friday (it was our 17th anniversary of dating! And yes, he knows the date, we usually do dinner or something every year)-- anyway the text just said "17 years, I still love you and you love me, no rush to figure the rest out ) because I know I have been pressuring and I wanted him to know I am not anymore...

And then over the weekend he was fine with me and he called me Sunday so I know he wasn't bothered by the message...

Anyway the only thing that I wonder about is whether he can't imagine life without me because I am "the one" for him, or because I am comfortable like an old pair of shoes... Which you like to have around but you aren't exactly passionate about...

Oh well, nothing I can do about that. Just keep on being me and let the rest happen as it will!

And yes, he is doing up the house. He went to the home show with me a month or so ago and we looked at flooring, etc. He kept asking my opinion on it. And his cabinets have arrived for the kitchen but he has been in Canada last week and this week so nothing is installed yet. I don't know when he will actually live there. I imagine things will be more 'real' at such time as he actually has his own home and has the kids there with him part-time. He told me a while back that he hoped the work he was doing on this house would ultimately be for BOTH of us, so we shall see...

On an unrelated note we are expecting strong storms this afternoon. I LOVE a good thunderstorm!