Alison, I am so sorry that your day didn't go better. Would have been much nicer for it to kind of snuck up and you say, "Oh that's today??"
Your d13 is going through a difficult time but no reason to allow the cursing. 13 minutes of a bar of soap in her mouth may have done the trick. It has helped prevent S16 from being mouthy..he hates it. Of course if they are smart, it just sits there and no foam. I know it sounds bad but it works!!
You obviously need some more relax time. Please take it when you can. Enjoy your kids. They will play you off each other until they see that it doesn't work.
Here's to peace. Hugs.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory