I ahhhh, I dissent from the popular opinion in this.
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My thinking is that I need to protect my kids.
From what? Two adults sleeping together before they are married? And by sleeping...I mean sleeping.
A 5 year old child looking for comfort in the middle of the night, and I'm not sure removing that comfort is in his best interest.
Bringing this to court would involve your children's testimony. Wouldn't it? I am not a lawyer, but I cannot see any other way, some sort of evidence they would have to communicate for the validitiy of accusation. And in that case, what they say could hurt mom or dad in their mind. Why burden them like that?
Would I like it if that was the case with my son and his mom and the OM? No, not at all and I might let her know that, but court? Then again, I didn't ask my boys questions about her life when they came back from being there either.
Yeah we are all upset and pis sed off for you MissH and it's not right, but its not worth burdening your kids or puting them in the middle and realistically making them choose.
What would happen if your XH managed to coach them into saying it never happened? In the courtroom...how would you feel then?
They aren't doing it to spite you,, or rub your face in it, they are doing it so a 5 year old who might not like the place can get some sleep.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
