Glad you all had a relaxing break. I remember counting the days to the end of the school year after March break.
Yes, he certainly is an idiot. The original order was waiting for me when I got to the office this morning. The judge actually signed the order on March 13th (a clerk signed it March 17th), so I believe it will be final on April 14th. I was not overly concerned about the date sticking in my mind unless it fell on a holiday or a significant day, so it looks like it will be OK. Neither xh nor I could ever remember our anniversary and sometimes celebrated it on the wrong day.
Not sure what the 31 days is for, but the window for appeal is closed at this point. Seeing the order on paper was not difficult, as I felt divorced when I told xh that our marriage was over on June 2nd. I feel strange being "divorced" as I never wanted to have that label attached to me. I didn't even really care if we married in the first place although I did really want a diamond ring. Waiting for as long as I did before getting married, I thought that the odds were pretty good that we would stay married. I really thought I had made the right choice.
My new neighbourhood is really not that far from where I live now so it won't be too much of change except for noise (I hope). The street I live on now is very busy with traffic and emergency vehicles so I am looking forward to getting away from that.
I am just so grateful to not have been sucked into xh's crazy world I think that might be keeping me from feeling like I have lost something valuable and therefore getting depressed. I see my life changing financially for the worse as I now have to save as much as possible for my retirement after foolishly depending on xh to be saving for our retirement. I hope that I find something to keep me busy and fulfilled but I don't mean another relationship. I certainly am at a crossroads but don't know which way to turn at the moment. I'm going to concentrate on my upcoming move for the time being.
