Sorry to hear about the dilemma with OM. I understand.
Just my $.02 worth not knowing your sitch. Once the EA or A is exposed, you really can't do anything about it. She is going to do what she wants to do. Making it more difficult just makes the fantasy (and therefore the attachment) stronger. Just make sure that you have set your boundaries clearly (ie don't involve the kids).
as far as the haircut - stay with your W, but maybe challenge her to give you a different style than she ever has before?
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
