Thank you again for all of the time you are investing in me. It means a lot to hear real action planning from people not involved. I thought of 2 other questions that are coming up. 1. We own a hair salon and she has always done my hair. I need a hair cut and she said last week that she would do it. She said that she just needs to feel we are compromising. I think that is in regard to her legal process. Should I ask her to do my hair, or should I find a stylist and just get it done. I can see both sides of both decisions. On one hand, she has always enjoyed making me look good and it is a time we laugh and talk, even 4 weeks ago after her announcement. On the other hand, if I go somewhere else, it will look like I am moving on, but she will be critical of another person's work and find reasons to think I don't look as good. Sounds petty, but it is an issue I need to face this week. 2. Since we have 3 kids under 8yrs old, we are very interactive on a day to day basis. Her time is very limited and she physically can only see the OM maybe once every 3 weeks, although she texts and talks to him several times a day (something she feels the need to hide, even though she knows I know and have discussed it). If I find more reasons to be out, business travel, etc., I will be giving them more opprotunity to hook up. If I am around more, it becomes less possible. Giving her space may come off well, but may also accelerate the path they are on. If, on the other hand, they can't see each other as much, he may get tired of it and move on. She has said in the past that they only talk on the phone and she hasn't even seen him, but I know of 2 occasions when they were planning to meet and had the time. Thoughts?
