Just checking up on you to see how things are going with you. How are H and the boys? And how is your friend and her spouse? More importantly, how are you doing?
How are things going? Just wanted to come and check on you. How are things with your DS6? Is school any better for him?
((((((hugs)))))) Hope you had a good time at the Celtic Festival.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Normally that crap wouldn' bother me, but man, every since our problems, I just think its so dis-respectful.. am I wrong?? I mean looking once is one thing.. but 3 freakin times???
Oh my friend, tal.......I know where you are coming from. xH did this, and still does it when we are together. He bought us (me and the girls) dinner awhile back and flirted with the waitress. Fool. Used to do that when we were married. Here's the deal, it never ever once bothered me before the affair/problems. In fact, I was proud he was able to be social with anyone, find a woman attractive, but still 'want/love' me...blah blah blah. After the A, watch out. It set me off immediately. Made me sick. And angry.
One time we were driving somewhere, and he almost drove off the road, staring at a jogger. I said "Your next significant other will not appreciate that kind of stuff, just so you know. She'll be repulsed by you. And even if we aren't 'together', when we are physically together, I can guarantee you any normal woman would be offended that you are flirting with her while with someone else".
You and I are different. xH never 'came back to me' after his A, so his flirting/looking techinically shouldn't have bothered me. But you are with your husband. If it bothers you, talk to him. Try not to be sarcastic and defensive. In fact, don't talk to him right after it happens. Wait til later, and form your words so you can understand where you are coming from.
nc... just when the boys were healthy, S6 and S3 have strep again!! I can't believe it. I actually wrote a note the principal asking if they frown upon parents sending their kids to school sick, because that's were he's getting it from, he's sick literally every other wk!!
I had my MRI last wk, don't think I mentioned it. I have had a headache for 2 weeks now and they have ruled out just about everything, so I go with my films next monday to a neurologist.
We did go the the festival, it was boring, not what I thought. I couldn't get a moment with my friend's H, but she acted like everything was fine, I don't get it, and I think she is doing more damage to him, its like leading him on so to speak.
Sugar.. thanks for checking on me.. S6 is doing ok. We work all the time together at night on his words and reading. The teacher said he is making good progress.. although he's too social
Glad to see you LWB.. Oh I know what you went through.. its so annoying, I did call him on it, but got a lame excuse. I will approach the subject again when it happens. H is attentive and says he can't get "enough of me" but considering all the sickness I have been dealing with, he just can't sit and hold tight, he acts like a selfish jerk. Like I have said, everyone wants a piece of me. He sees this but still doesn't get it. sometimes its so hard for me to balance everything, and I know that I do put the kids before him on many occasions (don't hurt me sara) but they are only 3 and 6. I don't know.
I just want them to get well...
love you guys!
t
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I feel so bad for you, dealing with all this sickness. And the kids too. Having strep once a year is a lot. Three times is unbelievable. Have you tried having your air ducts cleaned? Around here it is recommended for a healthier home.
Thanks Sara.. actually we did have them cleaned and had the house checked for mold and radon and we're all good in that arena.
So I got a call from the dr. today, My MRI was normal. Its good and bad. Now I know when I got to the neurologist he's going to want to put me on meds, which I don't want. I may try a homopathic dr. first.
Kids are getting better. S6 is still struggling a bit. he's been on the anitbiotics for over 24hrs so he was ok to go to school, but Hes worn out. The School has been complaining that he's been out so much, but what the H can I do???? I did tell the principal that he needs to send out a letter reminding parents that they should be keeping their kids home when they are sick.
Well I have to go and clean the house.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
