Really great feedback. On the job front I really do not know what to do here. Previously when I was coming to the end of a contract, I would stress out and moan about the fact there wasn't much work around, we have got to cut back on things - basically negative feelings. By being upbeat I am trying to promote a positive attitude and in the meantime try and get a temporary job while I am looking, rather than just being around the house.
In regard to the golf, I completely understand where you are coming from here. In my defence I have only played golf 5 times this year so far, I know it is 5 because I do not want to fall into the 'golf every weekend' more of the same situation. I am trying to mix it up a bit by not playing every weekend, but my wife does not appear to acknowledge what is for me a BIG 180 as I used to played religiously every weekend. I am not sure what to do here because I have a competition that starts at 1130 and finishes late. I have definately done a 180 here, but I also think at this stage of our relationship she is 'happy' for me to play as it gives us the space she craves.
J, I have no qualms whatsoever about doing the ironing, washing etc as I do not resent it at all, actually I find ironing quite theraputic and it gives me strength as I NEVER did any ironing or washing before. In fact I did not even put the dirty clothing into the washing machine, so I hope this is seen as a 180. Am I doing successful DB'ing?
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years