I think it is very much like your sitch. If I am not pushing a SL on her she is pretty happy for the most part. We do interact very well and make great companions in a platonic sense. We enjoy talking with each other.
Have you ever seen a couple sit at a restaurant facing each other and yet not uttering hardly a word? We are the total opposite of that. We can still talk for hours about stuff and can find humor in just about anything. We do have fun together.
I do think that she has battled depression on and off over the years. I have tried to get her to talk about her feelings when she is down, she won't talk about it though. She also won't get professional help.
As DQ describes it...
Originally Posted By: DQ
I think Mrs. Cinco's sexuality is really deeply hidden within her for her own reasons, and that she feels she is just fine the way she is. She resents Cinco asking her to change. She is happy how she is. She knows Cinco is unhappy, and that makes her unhappy and edgy about her marriage....but she herself is just fine and happy being an non-sexual person.
... is very close to our sitch. She was perfectly content with a very low sex (no sex?) marriage. She has the companion that she likes, someone that is fun and she can converse with.
Cinco - "W, I want us to have connection. I don't feel my connection with you when we aren't ML.
Mrs. Cinco - "But we are close and connected. There is nothing wrong with our relationship."
This one conversation told me that she is getting everything that she wants out of our marriage. It is me that is unfulfilled without a SL. So I am pushing her out of her comfort zone.
