In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[steady]

WOM,

She's telling you what she needs and what bothers her about you.

1. You controlling her - It doesn't matter whether you think you are or aren't. It's what she thinks you are doing and nothing you are going to say is going to change that. As a matter of fact, if you try to convince her that you are not controlling her then you are just proving her right - trying to get her (control) to change to your point of view. DETACH.

2. She needs space - give it to her. Find out how to do that.

3. "she told me that when she tells me she doesn't want to discuss whatever we are talking about anymore I don't let it go or let her go have some space. " - stop talking about the R and the M. This is the subject she doesn't want to talk about anymore. I did the same thing early on my sitch and it's what my W remembers the most - it's the ammo she's using to get separated.

This is all script. You could have been writing my situation here. Don't believe anything she says and only half of what you see. When she gets pissed off at you she will dig her heals in and lock onto getting a D. Your behavior is showing her that you are the same you - the one she wanted to leave. It's just proving her right. You need to stop it now.