Kevin, I agree that you shouldn't bring anything up to the kids yet. As for the webcam, your oldest is 11 years old, can't she set it up herself so your W doesn't have to be there?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.