Threads just lock up all be themselves when you get over a certain number of replies. There's no definite amount. I guess it's just when the administrators get around to it. It's usually between a 100-150 responses that I've noticed.
Sounds like you're doing better now with the way you're reacting to your wife. Not engaging her when she's shaping for confrontation is the right way to go.
As for dressing up for going out, as long as you think you looked good that's the main thing. Your wife wouldn't mention it even if you started looking like Brad Pitt. She's not in a place right now where she's going to do that. She will notice all the positive changes in you though whether she mentions it or not. Keep improving but do it for you. Don't seek her approval for everything you do. If she does compliment you don't act like it's a big thing either. Be polite but just shrug it off. You know you look good and you don't need her to tell you that.
I don't know how to advise you as far as speaking to your friend about moving out goes. I wouldn't move out of the house at all but you seem to have made your mind up on that one. Did you ask your solicitor the legal implications of it yet? What if she does change the locks as soon as you go? Would you have any right to move back in after your agreed time? At the very least I would get the agreement in writing so she can't go back on it.
I know it feels like your wife is detatching you more than you are her. Don't worry about that. I think it's quite common. It's certainly something which used to drive me mad. Just keep detatching her and try not to think over much about what she's doing.
I apologise if I'm not giving the best advice today Mark but I've had quite a tough weekend in my sitch. We all go through low points though mate. Just try not to let your wife see those low points. That's what acting 'as if' is all about.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
