Accelerated divorce due to OM...normal?

[sweet-1]

She's often commented about how worried she was turning 40. So it's possible. PDT, I think the B is most likely. She made a comment in Jan when i asked if the marriage means so little, she'd throw it away like this, her response was "It's because marriage is so important that I'm doing this". We didn't have a perfect marriage by any means, but nothing to justify this (in my mind). I'm a rather large man, but the males in my family are considerably bigger, and we live in a small farming town. I'd be more scared of my brothers and father than the law if I ever hurt my wife. There's no addiction, (except maybe ATV's and horseback riding), I build model airplanes (yes you read that right) for my indoor hobby. I'm a consultant in the oilfield, and work away occasionally, yet still get most weekends and nights home, the kids were always happy to see me, she always seemed glad I was home. I always asked if I could help with supper, Always did dishes etc. the day before she left, i was planning her 40th birthday party, had the hall booke dand everything. I was even going to invite this guy (I believed the friends line at the time). We even said our I love you's the night before.

Of course all the naysayers are coming up to me with the "we saw this coming last year" or "she's been palnning this since she got pregnant 12 years ago" We had arguments and often fired little snips back and forth at parties etc, but never anything I thought was this bad. We went to a counsellor a few years back and she continued to see him on and off until Oct when he lost his license and was fined. And she is in a new age self-help group called the "woman within" it's the sister group to the mankind project (got to forum.rickross.com for info). they preach ultra-feminism "your husbands can't be trusted", and sacred masculinity (?)"your wives must never find out what happens on our weekends" type BS. Sweatlodges, sleep deprivation etc, but she had quit the group prior to leaving (she's apparently returned now).

I'm not sure, it's all happening so fast and so utterly random. All I know is, it feels right in my heart to fight for this, and the worst is most likely yet to come.