I guess what I can try doing is being nice, cut out my 'common sense' talks that she says make her feel stupid, and just being as nonjudgmental as possible.
Emotions are starting to get the better of me in some respects, so I'll probably need to re-evaluate.
Yes, that's all good. Cut out the common sense talks and I wouldn't pursuit. I think some of the limiting contact or going dark or dim is to help with the emotions. Instead you GAL, focus on yourself and your kids. Maybe your W has mental problems, maybe she's just young (she was about 18 or so when you married?). I know at 22 I was a LOT different than I am now 20+ years later. I would just focus on you and your kids though as being the most important. Take the high road and I do think you will always feel good about that in retrospect. Karen
