Hi DCBHM, been out of touch for a while, but hopefully I'm back. I've been trying to catch up on your stitch. You said the emotions were about to get the best of you and I think that is why your W and her family is "working" on you by being nice and telling you that you can see the baby whenever you want, etc. They are trying to break you down so you won't go through with all the evidence you have against your W. But, if it were me, I would forget everything and focus on getting primary custody of the child. I agree that your wife needs a lot of help and I wonder if you aren't feeling more pity for her right now than being in love with her. But at any rate, I do hope that the Judge will do the right thing for the child.
Take care of yourself, Sandi2
Yeah I've already made clear to my attorney to go ahead and fight. W is in a place mentally where she is going to fight me on every issue, and I've just got to be as proactive as possible on going on offense.
I'm still trying to resolve my feelings. My Bible verse for today was this:
You were united to your wife by the Lord. In God's wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one person in his sight. ~Malachi 2:15
I was deeply in love with W... but she has been doing her darndest to be as vindictive and spiteful as possible towards me. And I do have a lot of pity towards her now, and I'm just trying to shake off the issue and focus on D1.
Basically I have to do as you suggest and forget her, treat her as an adversary, and get D1 into a place I know she'll be taken care of and not put into situations which aren't good for her.
I'm a nurturing person, and I've raised my two boys from the ages of 1 and 2, and met W when they were 2/3. We married when they were 5/6. I know how to be a parent. 99% of fathers, especially in my age group don't have the same leg to stand on in a legal case, so should make this interesting.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
