thanks frisky for your insight.

"What I have asked H for is to meet together on a regular basis with the purpose of enjoying each other's company."

that seems like something i can ask for and very much should ask for considering my situation. is the time right? that i dont know... she's been gone approx 3 weeks and it was out of the blue... the last time we saw each other was on monday and it wasnt good at all.. just more of the same behavior from me plus i felt like speaking my mind which we all know how wrong that can be.

i have tried text messaging her once this week a and then i called her today and left a message about the costumes she made for my nieces, which was all positive feedback for her.

but i am not sure where to go from here... if i ask and she says no... then what? i feel if i keep giving her space, she will no longer come back... reading all these posts is nice and all, but figuring out whats best for u takes such a toll..

miserable in tampa,
robert

"What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger."