Quote: quote]Although you may feel like you've already told your partner a million times what you want, is there a chance you may have been asking in the wrong way?
Yes, I'm sure I have not been asking in the right way!
Quote: Is there a possibility that your "requests" may be coming off to your partner as "complaints"?
I'm sure they sound like complaints to him!
Quote: Are your requests specific enough to where your partner won't have to do any mind-reading or guessing about what it would take to help fulfill your requests?
No in reading that chapter, I have not been "to the point" and I'm bad at thinking everyone can read my mind, how did you know?
Quote: Are you able to break your requests down into small enough actions that would satisfy you, to lessen the chances of them thinking, "No matter what I do, it's never enough"?
That is what I'm working on; now I just have to make H see that I'm not complaining.
Quote: If things have been rocky in your relationship for awhile, might you be asking for too much, too soon?
We have been separated for 8 months, it feels like long enough. I did change the way I asked H if he wanted to go golfing and he made a suggestion that we go with another couple, I take that as a yes! Deb
