Accelerated divorce due to OM...normal?

[sweet-1]

In my situation she met an old friend on facebook (Aug 08), was most likely an EA until mid Nov 08. She moved out for atrial separation on Nov 2, 08, was talking divorce in Dec, served me Feb 18, 09. I now have confirmation of the OM, he's from British columbia, Canada (We're in Alberta), he came out for the winter to work in the oil patch. He and his common-law wife run a small resort in the interior of BC. I suspect he saw my wife as a winter fling, but she fell hard. Now he's gone home to the resort, and this weekend she dropped everything and went out there (lied to boss, friends etc about where she was going). I think she and the wife may have gotten into it, but not sure.

My question is, is it normal for someone in love with the fling to rush the divorce to be with them? And if she is rejected, (I suspect the wife has majority ownership in the resort), what are the most likely repercussions ican expect?

In Canada you have to be separated for a year for the no-contest divorce she wants. She also wants to do collaborative (I susoect she's scared of being exposed in court). we haven't even been sparated for 6 mos, and she's already decided she's moving closer to him etc. There is a history of mental problems on her mother's side as well (bipolar disorder in Mother, grnadmother and 1 aunt), father is a recovering alcoholic with serious control issues.