Oh man wish I was going with ya to that Pub. They have a great Pub around here, but the line is around the block to get in, but it is so fun.
The kids and I will just eat something green :-)
Chick.
About the advice.
Maybe just maybe, the people were trying to be protective of your heart baby girl.
You have been through the ringer.
It has not been easy.
Also I am sure that those people really have no idea how much YOU have grown. How you live in awareness to your surroundings and think twice before making any moves and pray about decisions first.
All they can imagine of your shoes is
You were hopeful, for your H to come to his senses. You were being intimate with him during the seperation, to keep the connection going. All the while he was still dating the same ole OW and got her pregnant.
SMACK in the face.
People can't even fathom that much pain.
And here you are, living through it with grace and dignity. The OW showed up at your house and you asked if she wanted something to drink and all the while she could not even look at you in the face.
For you see, your strength, and all around appearance, and the way you conduct yourself, does not demonstrate a woman that has been through hell.
It demonstrates a woman that has her shizz together, and they can not wrap their brain around that.
Let it roll off your back mami.
Just like you said Thank you and keep on walking.
Take it all in good faith.
I am pretty sure they are just trying to protect your heart.
As they should
Cheers hermana.
Live Simply Love Generously Care Deeply Speak Kindly Leave the rest to God
Yeah, chick wish u could have met me there too...lots of hotties! Met one---he was 25! Jinkies!
Liss, you are right about those people...they have NOT seen how much I have grown and how much I pray about decisions. SIgh...I am so loved and here I am complaining about it. How selfish I am. They just don't want to see my heart hurt again.
Thanks you for thinking I handled that with dignity and grace...I did try to do that...sigh...and you are right...they mainly DID see the woman who had it together...they really did not have to listen to me cry like you and Always and Baseball Annie did...they do not know the details...
Even now, my divorce is imminent...next week I think. And I am feeling sad about it. I mean, I am glad in many ways but I am also sad...I am sure you know what I mean. Right now I feel like I am trapped in a vortex of emotion...and I cannot get out...I just have to ride it out...it is exhausting...and I am doing my best to keep busy...with friends, with church...with meditation (although I have not done enough of that lately).
There is so much pain associated with this...
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Well...everytime it seems like my divorce is getting ready to be a done deal...another issue crops up...
This one has to do with tax implications and how we filed in 2007. Jinkies!
This is a very important question, kids...
And as much as I would love to move on from this rather sordid chapter in my life, I cannot leave any loose ends. So, hopefully my CPA will respond and we can get the show on the road.
Sigh.
Hugs to all... Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
It's amazing isn't it how the WAS push and push for the D and then when things are finally happening they suddenly find all sorts of things to slow the process down.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
However, I know that my STBXH is saying it is ME that is holding everything up...and at the beginning of the divorce I admit I was shell-shocked from finding all this stuff out and I was depressed about actually getting divorced but, amazingly, I bounced right back after a few weeks!
I have been ready to move through this process...understanding that i am STILL processing emotion that comes along with actually being divorced.
I have asked him to forward copies of the utility bills so I can switch them to my name and he has yet to do that. AND have asked him for the 5th time WHEN he will be by to pick up his remaining items from the garage. Including the lawn mower that the OW came by to 'talk' about a few weeks ago.
You would think he would have jumped on that already...sigh.
Oh well. I will be divorced when my final tax question is answered---hopefully that is soon!!!
Hugs! Vali
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
