I'm with you on the broken heated quick weight loss plan - I'm down from 252 to 195 myself, and suffering from many of the same frustrations you are.
As for telling your kids about the affair, I can't comment on that because that isn't something I've had to address, but I have been very clear with my kids that it was their Moms decision to move out and break up the family, and that it will be her decision to bring the family back together or keep us apart.
Others have cautioned me to not assign blame or disparage my W, but I never say anything disparaging about her, and always tell my kids that I love her and always will. However, I will not say that it was OUR decision to separate. However this turns out, I will always be able to tell my kids that I NEVER gave up on our marriage or our family.
