Hi, I will join in with the others in welcoming you to our community here. I was almost a WAW, but I never left my H for the man I met over the Internet....thank God! But, I was really messed up for a time and I can tell you a little bit of what it feels like from the WAW side.
Not to discourage you, but to prepare you in case this OM thing doesn't pan out with "him".....it does not mean that she won't immediately go "looking" for somebody else. She may not, and I certainly hope she won't....but she could. The reason I say that is b/c I found out from my own experience that there was something that was......shall I say....."stirred up" inside of me that caused me to feel excited about the whole thing. It is disgusting for me to try to talk about it now, but if it will help somebody else, then I'll do it. When I came on board here, I was involved in a EA and others here tried to tell me how certain chemicals were flooding my brain and that I was addicted to them. I did not believe it b/c I had never heard of it, so I went on line to read about it. They were correct! I also experienced the withdrawal when I broke it off with OM. But, it is the "feelings" that she will crave and if this old flame doesn't work out, she could go looking for another man that will give her those "in love" feelings and excitment again. It is very strong and when people do not understand what is happening to them, they are very vulnerable. I shudder to think what I would have done if I had been a lot younger than what I was at the time I went through it. I did learn a lot from the people here and I want to encourage you to stick with the board and be very open and honest about everything. Nothing that I know of has not been discussed, so there is not anything to be embarrassed about.
I have a list of Do's and Don'ts for people who are trying to stay in the home and make the M work, if you would like a copy. It has been passed around a lot, so you may have already seen it.
Remember to keep posting and reach out to others on their threads b/c it will help build up your suppost system.
Take care of yourself. I'll be back soon.
Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
