I'm curious.. you say you wont name her then if he wont give you the address, but you saw him for dinner and he didnt mention it.. did you ask him? Directly again? H, can I have aub's address for the paperwork? And if not, why did you shy away from confronting this with him and will resort to filling it out without adding her? And I agree with Naej, why is he not being cooperative!?
.. I am glad you say you have no regrets and gave it your best shot.. but I often thought there is one thing you didnt try (and I may have to do this).. stop being so available. Stop replying to emails.. stop meeting him for lunch, stop being so damn nice to him maybe! How do you think he would really react if you just took a break from him, or put up a stronger boundary, or stopped seeing him for a while?? Would he miss you? You've never really tested that and I know y ou will be thinking you did at times not reply to emails for a number of days.. but I mean go a step further than that, stop being so 'ok' about what he has done to you, which afterall, is pretty appalling (seeing aub for 18 months but meeting with you and holding your hand/kissing you but refusing to have an honest conversation about his intentions). I may have to take a break from my ex in this way if he continues to see helen, but I would still want us to resume our friendship later, when the emotion has died down.
So..if you say its a pain, but maybe he didnt realise that, why dont you just talk to him, honestly, about how hard it is to proceed without his help and why wont he give you her address? Could you do that?
As for CEO.. I dont know, I still vote for get him drunk and then flirt for England..!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
