What's next???? The adventure continues!!!

[PortlandDad]

My brother, I feel for you. It's called a roller-coaster for a very good reason, and it hurts like the dickens when you've had a string of good days and good outcomes, and then you get the bad day, or the backslide. It really does take time, and in most cases I've read about, it can take a long time. The problems in you M didn't pop up overnight, and they won't go away overnight, either.

I know you've had some very good days lately, and had some very promising events, but don't give up on your DB principles! You need to concentrate on yourself and your D right now, no matter what happens with your W. You were making some great strides in that direction, remember?

Lay off of the R talks. When she wants to talk to you, just listen and validate. Keep up the 180s and GAL activities: they will make you feel better.

I know how painful it is to watch the woman you love build an independent life away from you. Listening to them talk about the bedroom sets, the kitchen sets, getting cable and internet hooked up at the apartment, every one of those things seems so permanent and so painful to the LBS. I'm definitely in your shoes right now, too.

Strength. Detach and GAL. Be strong for your D.