I'm with Lisa, I wonder why you dont just have a talk with H, now that you are prepared to see a L and also.. you seem to have done a lot of work to come to a point of acceptance. To be honest, I was pretty shocked your H was seeing that girl from before the christmas 07 and before he said he didnt want to try anymore in teh May, as it didnt come across that way on your thread. So when you revealed all this to us, just exactly how long it had been going on, I guess things made more sense and also, why he was now living with her. I'm really sorry, life threw you the sh*tty end of the lollipop, me too, theres no explanation, but I am sure good things will come out of it for us both. I know it freed me up, mentally and physically and I'm less fearful and more giving to others now. For you, who knows if you would have gone on to do that music therapy if you were still with H? (and it sounds like a brilliant idea!)
I like your plan to get him to meet with you and then, not jump in and make it easier for him, but wait for him to fill the silences and actually explain himself. Good luck with that one though! Keep us posted and thinking of you,
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
