When it comes to the self destruct, that will happen on his time. Who knows when that will be. Try not to focus on that, you can't really make it happen any faster. Do your best to focus on you and your children for now.
Does he ask to speak with them on the phone?
Try to remember he is in teenage mode. No responsibilities is the way he wants it for now. Does he get angry or emotional at all?
He may have called for the taxes or he may have been just touching base. Some of them will do this. They want the best of both worlds.
