Normally that crap wouldn' bother me, but man, every since our problems, I just think its so dis-respectful.. am I wrong?? I mean looking once is one thing.. but 3 freakin times???
Oh my friend, tal.......I know where you are coming from. xH did this, and still does it when we are together. He bought us (me and the girls) dinner awhile back and flirted with the waitress. Fool. Used to do that when we were married. Here's the deal, it never ever once bothered me before the affair/problems. In fact, I was proud he was able to be social with anyone, find a woman attractive, but still 'want/love' me...blah blah blah. After the A, watch out. It set me off immediately. Made me sick. And angry.
One time we were driving somewhere, and he almost drove off the road, staring at a jogger. I said "Your next significant other will not appreciate that kind of stuff, just so you know. She'll be repulsed by you. And even if we aren't 'together', when we are physically together, I can guarantee you any normal woman would be offended that you are flirting with her while with someone else".
You and I are different. xH never 'came back to me' after his A, so his flirting/looking techinically shouldn't have bothered me. But you are with your husband. If it bothers you, talk to him. Try not to be sarcastic and defensive. In fact, don't talk to him right after it happens. Wait til later, and form your words so you can understand where you are coming from.
