True Love or True Fog? Part II - The Fertile Void

[Silver Fox]

I don't know. I tried on a pair of black patent leather heels today but it didn't feel like me. I think I'll go for a more conservative style. Or, I could wear my kicka$$ Frye boots that I bought in NYC in 1977! They always make me feel powerful.

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Silver,

Sorry, but I dont like the sound of the outfits, esepcially the black.. it is said that we wear black when we lack confidence. It also sounds like quite a 'heartless' outfit, you know? Business like.

Why not just be yourself, wear something comfortable colourful and pretty. Do a 180.. do you know what kind of clothes he liked you in or would have liked you to wear when you were together? How about more feminine, a dress maybe? I dont mean dress up like a date,.. but if you present a wall of defensiveness and hide behind a ball-breaking outfit, you will put him on the defensive as soon as you walk in the room. I vote for soft and pretty and like you are out for a nice day out, not wearing a suit of 'armour'. How about it?

Al x

[Silver Fox]

Hi Ali,

Funny, I was thinking about that today too. I wondered about a dress, something springy if it's warm enough here. He did like me in dresses which I rarely put on. The black however wouldn't be that much of a surprise for him. My whole wardrobe is based on it. All my shoes are black. I have lots of black pants, jackets, pocketbooks. I started adding color in the last few years in sweaters and I do have one pair of red shoes but they're flats.

Thanks for your take on it. I guess I was thinking "business" because I was such a sad case around him all last year. It's important to me that he understands that I'm serious about contesting this D and very serious about the terms I will and will not accept.

Well, I have 2 weeks so I'll be trying on lots of things!

[pearlharbr]

Hmm, in light of learning about the basic black wardrobe I definitely vote for color. I was going to say red cardigan because it is a power color. I think it is more about business at this point. You want to be taken seriously and this is a business setting. I wouldn't go all floral, seems to wishy washy.

Perhaps a good compromise would be a new feminine top in a lovely color, whatever suits your coloring best. And if you can swing it, a pair of colorful shoes to match. With the black pants/skirt it will be professional but flattering. (And if you can stand them, pointy toe shoes always seem serious and sexy to me.)

[davidswife]

Silver,

I'm still pulling for some sexy red heels. Make him wonder. . .

Stacy

[Belle]

Silver

I've been catching up on your sitch, and it's definitely got me interested!

I will stay tuned to hear about your mediation - I really hope that it goes well.

You sound really strong and you are inspiring me!

Thanks
Belle

[Tawnya]

I can't wait to hear the final verdict on the fashion choice

Either way you go, I betcha you will look fantastic!

Tawnya

[smartcookie]

I vote for the black skirt, white blouse, red sweater draped over your shoulders, & red peep toe pumps. You'll feel & look like a million bucks. More important than his reaction, I think, is how you feel.

Good Luck

[smartcookie]

Now I'm thinking of what to wear to court on the 15th.

Any suggestions ?

[Silver Fox]

I still haven't decided and have tried on everything in my closet. I feel like a teenager going on a a first date. Speaking of teenagers, I watched Twilight last night and while the credits were running I cried like crazy. Not over the movie but over my sad, pathetic H and memories of happy times. First time in a month I think. Oh to be 19 and madly in love for eternity!