Here is my two-cents: 1) It was good of you to buy two tickets to an event that you were looking forward to. But it should have been OK with you if your H politely turned you down then you could have taken another friend.
2) You did great when he went out to get pizza etc.
3) If he wanted to leave so badly for so long then he should have told you so and you would have politely let him go home or go with him
I think you H thought he HAD to stay but didn't express his wish to leave to either make you angry or to leave you feeling abandoned so he did the next best thing that males like to do, to put up with it and let the resentment build-up. Which is worse!
If your M is like this then it will get worse, not better. So when the time is right (my counsellor says after lunch) talk to him about opening communication: i.e. he doesn't have to do every event with you and you won't get upset, he can leave anytime he wants to and it would be OK with you; to bring his cellphone so that you can find each other; to not let resentment build up over time; to let these guidelines apply both ways. M should not be a prison, it should be a wonderful thing, but it doesn't mean that you 'owe' each other. Acknowledge his feelings that he didn't enjoy himself and that you understand. I think he might have felt that you acted without his interests at heart and have taken offence.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
