Well, FWIW, I read your story, trying to put myself in H's shoes. And I have to say, that sounds like a TERRIBLE evening. Dragged to a party that even you are pretty lukewarm about, where I knew no one, crowded, loud, dark, long, mediocre food, overweight belly dancers, Zumba music that even you hate... Um, yuck, sounds like a night in hell!
He spent all night trying to escape from this party - not from you, but from the party. First, the pizza excuse. Sure, he extended that as long as he could - so would I. Then, let's just get honest about it: "I'll wait outside." Finally, getting around to just saying it: "Get me out of here!"
Next time you want to attend one of these events, give H a "pass". You don't have to do everything together - if your GAL activities are not for him, that's OK.
Look at this from the "relationship point of view" rather than focusing on the specifics of this one evening. What can you learn here? What can he learn? Can you use this event to communicate better in the future, about activities you might do together (or not), to make sure you don't end up in a similar fix?
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
