I just think it is common courtesy to tell your mate where you are going and when you plan to be back, or at least call occasionally and update them so they don't worry.
And I think that shared responsiblity for childcare is also a reasonable expectation from your spouse....
I don't think that is too much to ask.
There....I feel better.
Hey Native,
You're 100% right. I guess I connect with you because it seems we have such similar situations. Sometimes we can see in others what we don't see in ourselves.
I am 46 and until she passed away last year everytime I would get on a plane after visiting my mother she would ask me to call her when I landed to let her know I got home safely. I use to hate that! As an adult she was trying to mother me like a child. "Watch the news, I guarantee they will anounce if my plane crashes LOL!" AND what was she going to do if the plane crashes? Come save me?
She knew it annoyed me and she told me it made her feel better so I should do it. She was putting her needs in front of mine. So I resented this not only because she tried to treat me like a child but becuase she was saying her needs were more important than mine and was using our mother/son realtionship to control me.
That said... You are right about the common courtesy. Unfortunately that is something I expect from friends and family because they care. I use to get it from my wife but don't expect it from her right now. You can guess the reason.
The way I try to approach it using your example. I tell her that knowing the weather is bad I know you are very capable of dealing with it. I will still sit here and worry about (your daughter) and her, so would you mind calling me to let me know you guys aren't stuck to take that concern away for me?
We can't expect them to be considerate of us until the relationship returns to where it was. If you really are concerned for your daughter's safety say so. Let everything else go.
BUT hey!!!!! I'm seperated so better think twice about my advice LOL LOL LOL!
