Strange that you should talk of money, debt & living from paycheck to paycheck. My theory is & it is only a general theory. If you grew up with your parents having debt & living from pay check to pay check and as an adult you thus did the same. It in a way is a strange, warped sense of security. And thus if you get out of debt, it is unfamiliar territory, almost in a sense "out of your comfort zone". I know it doesn't sound sensible or logical but our WAS is neither. My H was almost out of debt when he left. I have always wondered, if this was frightening for him & out of that "zone".

Good to hear her cousin talked some sense into her though. And good she heard it from someone else.

I can see why you get concerned, really planning on driving someplace with 0 money & with a child!!! That's just plane ridiculous!


Me39, XH45
Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats
Divorced 6/4/09
Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)