Hi DCBHM, been out of touch for a while, but hopefully I'm back. I've been trying to catch up on your stitch. You said the emotions were about to get the best of you and I think that is why your W and her family is "working" on you by being nice and telling you that you can see the baby whenever you want, etc. They are trying to break you down so you won't go through with all the evidence you have against your W. But, if it were me, I would forget everything and focus on getting primary custody of the child. I agree that your wife needs a lot of help and I wonder if you aren't feeling more pity for her right now than being in love with her. But at any rate, I do hope that the Judge will do the right thing for the child.
Take care of yourself, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!