Since I told her that i refused to move out or be kicked out she decided that she agreed.
The thing is though that she now wants a devorce based on my decision to stay in the house. She said that she either wants us to separate or if i will stay in the house she wants us to divorce. In addition, she says that after I said that I refused to send the message to my sons that I am the type of man to walk out on his family she agreed that our sons need me. Dam right they do!
So the only way she can reconsile the fact that i will be in the house with the fact that she no longer wants to be in a relationship with me is for us to divirce. This makes no sense tome, but whatever I am still here in the house with my sons.
So here is where I messed up a bit, I asked her if she was totally sure that our relationship was over and she said not completely,but that's how she feels. She went on to say that when she initially dropped the bomb she was totally sure she wanted a divorce, even though she said she just wanted to separate at the time. Now that she can see that i have had an awakening and sees the changes i have made she is 98% sure.
That still sounds like she is over it to me.
So I told her that given the fact that she is done with our relationship I will be looking out for what's best for me. I told her that what is best for my sons is best for me. She said that sounds as though i am being high and mighty and implying that our sons are not in her best interest. I told her that if she were to ask anyone if when a father says that same statement they would respect it, I also said that you as their mother should be happy that is my priority. She said I a just trying to be high and mighty and make her feel bad. I said i have no control over her feelings only she is.
She asked me so what does that mean for her and I, I said that I don't know and like her I can't predict the future. I then told her my "awakening" has caused me to re-evaluate our relaionship and the changes she is going through, and given her changes she is more than welcome to come and tell me that she would like to try and re-establish a realionship with me, but i can't or won't guarantee I will still want to.
W.O.M.,
In my opinion, you need to get back to this mindset. You're way too pursuing and placating now.
