Once your H is ready to come back to you, he will do what's necessary.
Take it one day at a time. Hey, you can be an inspiration for me. Good luck.
Thanks Vicky. I question his ABILITY to do what is right, the addiction factor skews things in this case. The OW (affectionately referred to as the TROLL by me)is emotionally retarded, addicted and needs to be saved. I'm just so tired of being in the same place, I'm ready to move fwd.
Karen, I have to go back and look to see about that. We are all well aware that my copy of DR is not tattered as I followed very few of the principles, I'm a glutton for punishment. You're right, I don't want to look back and have ANY regrets, but its times like the last couple of weeks that remind me WHY we are where we are. Things are just tense and strained right now, but they will get better, I just have to be patient and not react or take things personally.
All in all, we do have better communication and we are able to get things out there that we weren't able to in the past, but unlearning old habits is hard and its so easy to slip back into old familiar patterns, even when they are destructive. Ultimately, if he can't/won't get his gambling under control, this is a lost cause anyway...I refuse to spend the rest of my life a slave to his addiction. But, one thing at a time. Like Kat said, think of it as a hill, not a mountain.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
