LOLOL {{{Pearl}}} You are too funny!! Isn't that crazy how they want to schmooze ya until you aren't doing what they want and then "oops..gotta go"..sigh LOL
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Well, I backslid this weekend - sent some super cute pics of kids over to W, even though she started it, and then felt sort of soiled, but I guess it's good to start over on a Monday!
Hang in there JD, "the ocean is just over the next mountain". Excuse me, I used that phrase when my kids were young and we were driving to the beach. They asked me every 5 minutes "are we there yet" so I adopted this phrase for fun - it was a few years before they realized that there weren't any mountains on the way to the beach. Trying to light up. You will get there when you do.
Meantime, I had a rough weekend, and today he really let me have it when I was not responding. You can catch up on my thread for details. Figured something out. I think I know what works and what doesn't work now.
I feel a bit of a fraud in here now as there is NO communication between W and myself and it's unlikely there ever will be. She has taken herself RIGHT out of my life and I am no longer concerned for her life. Total detachment. Never thought I would get here, especially in the manner I have. I am happier now than I have been for years though in all aspects, home, work, social life. I feel an overwhelming sense of freedom from the pain and misery I have been going through for the last 8 months.
I may be a poster boy for detaching, but when things happen to you like they did to me (W just calling me to my sons and then cutting me off) it's a rather easy thing to do. You simply have no choice but to let go.
To all of you still struggling, my heart goes out to you and I will give you all as much of my 'love' as I can from here.
I am thinking of you all the time and wish you nothing but happiness wherever you end up.
This isn't a final post in here, but I feel I should hand over the reins as I no longer qualify for ownership. (I will be a retired Vice Chairman )
Well I dunno Silva, I'd almost think that would give you the best seat to be in don'tcha think?
I haven't had to contact my hub except for the other day he contacted me about the title to the car he wants to keep via email, told me something wasn't entirely true about the car insurance, cause I too had called <grin> and gotten the info, so I emailed back about the title, told him I had called and knew the deal, and then amazingly his next email was just like "thanks for finding the title and sending me the tax info"..mr nice Imagine LOL
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Silva, I'm just curious about your sitch with W. Will you file for D now? Or wait until she does? I know you haven't spoken and live separate lives, but what about the legalities? Just want to make sure you're protecting yourself financially.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
I don't want to file just yet as one thing that W ran away from was our financial position. I am currently being made bankrupt and W will have to shoulder half the joint debt when it happens. I am not vindictive, and have offered to take on all debt prior to bankruptcy but she cut off communication. The ball was in her court and she never hit it back.
If things remain as they are, she will be chased for the debt and that will be her making, not mine and I don't feel like making things any easier for her. Once that is sorted, I will file as soon as I can. If that wasn't going on, I would have filed a few weeks ago as I want an end to it all.
Thanks for your concern, but I am better protected as I am at the moment.
Good to hear and totally understandble position to take. I would totally do the same thing. Just wanted to make sure you're taking care of your financial self too.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
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