CL, I think you should tell her directly! She has not understood your actions in the past.....doing the cooking for HER PT job, taking care of the puppy, the extra housekeeping chores you have accepted, etc, have all been examples of indirect efforts to show her that you want to improve your R. I don't think she has connected the dots for those actions, so I am not sure she makes the connection that her sleeping elsewhere affects your desire for intimacy. Don't forget that women are from venus!
