The Bumpy Road to Recovery #2

[Bagheera]

Well you can imagine that knocked me for loop. I can't imagine him ever coming home. Any suggestions?

At this point, build a completely indepedent life for YOURSELF, by yourself. Knowing your history, you deserve better for yourself than this guy, Poet, yet you keep clinging to him, and trying to 'rescue' him from his own follies and irresponsible actions. Let him go, and focus on you for a change.

I honestly think that it was a mistake for you to return to the house, and move out of the apartment close to your job. From there, you could have easily 'gone dark' for the MONTHS (not 2 weeks) that I think it would take for him to realize what he left behind when he left you.

This is nothing new -- you've been advised this before, by much, MUCH more experienced DBer's than I. However, I haven't read DB and DR, my marriage never got to the point of divorce or legal separation (only an informal separation for 6 months). Neither myself nor my wife have wandered outside of our marriage. I generally avoid offereing ANY advice in those area, because I don't know what I'm talking about. So this is just my $0.02, and not much more.

Best of luck to you,

Bagheera