In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[steady]

...I don't really think she actually thanked me.

Now is this me having expectations about her be thankfull. Or should I just be happy to do it for her because I just want to help out a friend and not expect anything in return.

Or am I just being a doormat?

...

So how should I frame it when she asks for something in the future?

Maybe she was so busy running around to get ready that she just forgot to thank you, or it never crossed her mind.

You are only being a doormat if the behavior is repetative. Keep an eye on it.

You can frame the future right now. Just watch to see if it was an oversight or if she's using you as a doormat. When you figure that out, you'll know how to frame it in the future.

Do the things because you want to do it - not to get some kind of response. But don't be a doormat either.