Hello Bagheera,

I always feel like I'm highjacking your thread. I hope you don't mind. I always love it when you're around. I mostly lurk myself these days as well. It's not because I don't want to speak. It's more because I feel pretty well in despair about my Marraige. My H doesn't want to come home and he doesn't want to see me. And he doesn't want to call me. In fact he never does. I have been the only one to call him since he left.

I've gone dark for 1 to 2 weeks at a time. And when I call him, I might call him every day for a week and then go dark again. He just keeps getting worse. the last time I talked to him he was sick; he has a parasite. But it's not from sex. It's from drinking water at the campground where he lives.

the sexual issue that I need you to know about is this: (well, you know the most of my story, right)

I went online a few weeks ago to a Web site that he was once a member of. Apparantly, he never unsubscribed from this site. It was a site for men to meet women for sex and visa versa.

There were two emails in there from him, for 2006. Mind you, we were still married. The note said to this woman, who looked to be in her 20s and he's in his 50s. He said, "Let's bypass the bullsh** and just get naked."

Well you can imagine that knocked me for loop. I can't imagine him ever coming home. Any suggestions?

poet