Walk Away German Wife (WAGW)

[PortlandDad]

Very true. At some point, though, the good feelings, memories, and the "loving attachment" starts to fade. I am starting to see just how much I romanticized the time we did have together, to the point of completely overlooking the bad. I know that she did exactly the opposite: she looked at only the bad, and overlooked the good. In any event, I'm less sure today that she will ever come back, but oddly enough, I am more at peace with it than I have ever been.

As I was reading through a couple of other threads here, I got a webcam chat request from the W. She looks pretty good considering it was almost 10pm in Germany when she called. She wanted to talk to the boys, of course, but we also chatted for a while. She bought a DVD player so she can watch region 1 movies and she didn't know how to set it to play region 1. I helped for for a while, but it was apparent to me she didn't really need my help; I think she just wanted to show off yet another step in the building of her independent life. It was a pleasant conversation, but meh, still depressing when considered as a whole.

I'm actually thinking more and more about having a D conversation with her and sending her the uncontested D forms. The way I see it now, if she is willing to sign them and return them, then the M is over anyway and I can move forward without feeling like my life is on-hold waiting for her to make up her mind about what she wants to do. Maybe having the conversation, or receiving the papers from me will be the wake-up call she needs to make up her mind. If she isn't willing to talk, or sign the papers, then maybe that is a good thing, too, since it means she still cares enough not to want to slam closed that door.

Honestly, there is no pressing reason for me to push this issue now: she can't hurt me or the kids' financially any more, and there is no OW waiting in the wings for me, so maybe pushing a D now is premature, especially since I question whether I would have the stomach to see it to its conclusion just yet.

Any suggestions?