Yeah, they are warped. Mine had actually lied to his family and told them that I was dating someone!! OMG! I don't have time to date anyone because I am dealing with OUR kids 24/7. I had to inform my MIL that her son is a liar. No telling what kind of crap they tell the OW. I can just hear it now... She up and left me, took my kids, took all of my stuff, takes all of my money, yada,yada,yada.
Oh, btw, if you read my thread, you will see that I just found out OW is 19. Yep, you read it right folks. 19. So, I no longer refer to her as the OW, she is now the womanchild. Someone he works with. He could lose his job, as he is upper management. What a f****** dumb a**. If he loses his job he better go start digging ditches to help support his kids, because I won't forgive the child support. If he won't take the time to see them he can at least send them money.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Daughter told me today that ex says he "screwed up royally".
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting I think it is going to take a long time before they make the connection of their behaviors is what caused the spiraling downward effect and loss of the R. I think if they have to put that connection together they are too fragile to see the truth.
Your h is making progress though, he realizes HE screwed up, not saying YOU!
I think your h is making great progress. He may just come to you one day soon and say how badly he screwed up.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
At least he takes a little responsibility. Mine's still at the teenager I can do whatever I want nanenanebooboo stage. Flashes of remorse and missing us, but no real responsibility taking.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
You are in the early stages. Your time will come...... They follow such a distinct pattern it is amazing. Your strength and sense of humor amaze me this early. Keep plugging along, you will do well.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Thank you. I'm feeling much better already. Making some friends on here sure does help because you don't understand if you haven't been there. I'm totally keeping the sense of humor. You should read the gobbeldygook we were talking last night LOL
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
