Trusting I think it is going to take a long time before they make the connection of their behaviors is what caused the spiraling downward effect and loss of the R. I think if they have to put that connection together they are too fragile to see the truth.

Your h is making progress though, he realizes HE screwed up, not saying YOU!

I think your h is making great progress. He may just come to you one day soon and say how badly he screwed up. \:\)

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"