okay--a good friend recommended a place that sells overstock eyeglass frames (I always get things from overstock places!) for a much reduced price, as well as a very reasonable and high-tech eye exam. Looks like I can easily get this done with what I have set aside. They're not seconds, and it's not a second-quality exam. This looks quite do-able--and about 5 minutes from home.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
oh, and even better this morning. the optometrist's office called back; they were able to contact insurance and they will cover the eye exam, and they have a good selection of glasses at competitive prices. And I think H feels pretty bad about D's disappointment so he has offered to split the cost of the glasses with me.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Now I am really peeved. I finally--after a month of freezing--paid enough of my gas bill to have my service restored yesterday morning. This is after seeking aid from multiple sources without success (I just don't qualify either because I'm still married to someone who makes a lot of money, I make just a tiny bit over the limit, or funds have just run out by this point). The gas company earlier had offered to drop part of the reconnect fee--but of course, rescinded that offer when I was paying them. So they were supposed to reconnect my gas sometime today between 7:30 and noon; I had to be present (although of course I didn't have to be here when they disconnected it) so I got up early, etc. So it's now 2 pm, and they haven't shown up. No one is in the office to call and check on this (I tried) and the only thing I can do is wait until Monday--and I'll have to stay home from work to do this!! I'm beginning to believe I am cursed in this whole heating thing. I was looking forward to actually cooking this weekend, to drying my clothes in the dryer, to being warm....
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Called the gas company again, ultimately got "dispatch." After being cut off 5 times (I am not exaggerating) I finally got thru. They're very busy today and still have me on the list. However, since they don't know when they'll get to me, and I need to be here when they come, I have to sit here and wait until this evening. Unbelievable.
I am learning a lot about being poor. No one really knows or cares that this is a (hopefully) temporary situation for us, that I've never been in this situation before, and it's due to circumstances beyond my control--no necessarily my own bad choices! Poor people are apparently not entitled to common courtesy, to a respectful tone of voice, to being allowed to plan ahead, to consistent information over time.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
I went to my daughter's band concert last night before dropping her off for her weekend at her dad's. It was during one of the fundraising fish fries that we used to love going to, but I was dreading the immersion back into the community I no longer feel a part of. I hate being there because it plunges me back into a deep well of grief for the community and the friends I used to have. It's so awkward. I sat with some of the other moms, which was fine. As people saw me, they either looked away, or came over to hug me, sometimes with tears in their eyes. D13 doesn't want to return to this school next year; it's been a bad year for her on many levels--7th grade is difficult in so many ways. And even though she has been there since preschool, she feels excluded by other girls and by a couple of the teachers, and believes the principal and the pastor hate her--she's had a lot of disciplinary action because H usually brings her to school late on her mornings with him, as if she had any control over that. (when I've tried to deal with that, the principal--a former colleague there--either ignored me or was very rude; however, she's no longer being written up for tardies). So I am undecided about sending her back next year, although it should be the culmination of her school career there. The faculty and staff know our situation; she's been a child of the parish since she was 3. It's been her whole world. And now that her family life has been upended, she should be able to count on their support and friendship even more--but it just isn't there. I am so sad for her; she had nothing to do with any of this, but she's paying the price for H's feelings about me, and for some of my previous co-workers' feelings about me. I so wish I had family and a better support system that could fill in where everything else dropped out. This has to get better at some point, right?
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Okay--we have the gas back on! Unfortunately, couldn't get the pilot lights on in the boiler, furnace, or fireplace. It's still cold, but the dryer is working and I can cook!
Anybody know about pilot lights?
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
