Got my first "I want you to stop contacting the people I know and work with email" today. The funny thing is it's her friends and coworkers talking to me. I think they're worried about the complete personality change. I sent a Facebook request to the OM's wife, nothing in it but a friend request, when I caugtht hem kissing on the street last week, no reply. He's in Alberta working, she's home in British Columbia tking care of their resort. Anyway my wife told her boss, she was flying to the coast to see her mother, and told her sister she was going to an entirely different town (over 7 hours away). She swears they are "just friends" yet the kids have never met him, she takes extreme pains to keep the family away from him, she's constantly lying, she's accused me of breaking into her vehicle (I haven't but I still own half of it), She is telling people that I will trash all the furniture she left in the house, etc etc. It's a good thing friends often drive 3 hours to pay cash for a hotel room. It's only been a week since the EA or PA was outed so I'm not too worried about the anger (except she CC'd her lawyer), but I know her family is coming down on her for this as well.
Me: 36 years old 1st marriage Wife: 40 years old second marriage S: 12 D: 6 Status: Separated Nov 2/08, Served papers Feb 18/09. PA confirmed 03/09 Custody: 1 week on, 1 week off, wife wants sole.